We hear in workplaces and coffee shops across the country, “Hi, how are you?” “I’m fine.” These words are the most often repeated lie in the country. Our masks speak for us rather than our hearts. Now if just want someone to go away while you preserve your […]
Some people like to ignore feelings while others like to exploit them. And then you get the people who know their feelings and just want to express them. Yup, they want to talk about them. What do you do when someone is expressing strong emotions that you don’t […]
The world is very keen on keeping things positive. Some people are a little weird about thinking about whatever they deem to be “negative.” They act as if thoughts are contagious, and if they can avoid others’ negative thoughts then those uncomfortable things won’t come live at their […]
I had a heart-felt talk the other day with I’ll call Sue. It was a good conversation on several levels until she began to talk about a mutual acquaintance who I’ll call Betty. Sue thought Betty was singling her out and picking on her. There was some justification […]
To avoid feeling their pain, I’ve developed defense mechanisms. I can be very withdrawn and aloof as a way to avoid other people’s drama. I am great at problem-solving, so if people tell me their troubles, I have constructive suggestions. If people don’t know what to do, I’ve […]
