What are your dreams and aspirations? What do you long for in your life? What do you do to make it happen? I have a few visions which I’m daring to dream, with clear actions that I’m taking to make them happen. What still surprises me after all this time, is that I’m not the only one taking action on my dreams.
My partnership is well past the honeymoon stage, and there are times when I wonder if my husband’s acceptance about what I do is simply that he doesn’t care. Then, there are years like this one, and I realize that he cares deeply and contributes to my dreams in many ways. He sacrifices time, money, and companionship to see me take steps toward my pursuits. He gives more than lip-service, he steadies me and helps me up. I often feel absolutely driven to create, to learn, and to develop my metaphysical potential. He’s with me every step of the way, and that’s how I know that this partnership is rooted in more than the mere attraction we experienced when we were younger. I knew that he always had my back, so to speak, but the past few years have also shown me that he has my front – my future, my development, my enfolding into all that I can be. That feels pretty good.
Then, I worked hard to make my dreams happen. When you don’t do anything, they’re only wishes. When you put in a little sweat equity, they begin to take shape as a viable future.
There are others, too, who encourage me, listen to my stories, share their insights into what confuses me, and put up with a sometimes hectic and unpredictable lifestyle. I have friends who have become my cheerleaders. Some of them simply helped me improve my skills. Others not only encouraged me and showed me that I can do more than I thought I could, they swept me up in a wave of enthusiasm and energy. If you’d told me 10 years ago that this would happen, I wouldn’t have believed you. I am amazed that I could ever be this happy.
Now that I understand this wonderful aspect of love and friendship, I wonder how I can do this for others. I can see that my efforts in the past were lacking. I need to kick that up a notch! I appreciate those wonderful souls who have taught me by example.
So what does this mean to you? If you aren’t satisfied with your life, then know that you can change it. That will involve stepping into new and unfamiliar territory, but that may be far better than the territory you are in now. If you want your life to change, then you have to be willing to risk something new. Your life will change when you change how you think and
how you interpret what is around you. I have worked hard to shed the mindset that I encompassed me for the first few decades of my life; it had done nothing to uplift me. It kept me working hard and making money, but it didn’t bring me peace with my life. I searched for and found new perspectives for managing my life and seeing my world, and they worked for me. What worked for my family of origin didn’t fit me, and I had to find my own way. I had to find what worked for me. It doesn’t matter how you were raised, or what group you find yourself in. It doesn’t matter if everyone else seems happy with that lens they use to see the world. If it doesn’t work for you,
then change it. Amazingly enough, what one mindset will see as a problem, another will see as an opportunity. What one mindset finds unthinkable, another would find liberating. Where others find nothing but pain and fear, another will see things differently — and walk through it, confidant that they can handle whatever happens. Change your perspective, and find a new world.And it won’t hurt to find new people to support and encourage you. There are people out there that will enable your dreams.
Practice the Presence, Dream the Dream that is Life!
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Who are we…really…without our dreams? Thanks for the reminder!
I try not to look at the success of others and wish for the same. Everyone has different needs. There is no one size fits all. I try to focus on the small gains of life. It is good to have big goals but also hard to see their completion. Many little pleasures are as important as one big one.
To have a partner who will share with you and plan with you is so comforting. We have faced many disappointments, but we faced them together.
These are just a few comments written in a few minutes. You always give a lot of thought to your essays. I am not sure I could ever express myself in depth as you do. I think it takes courage to really assess oneself. A true evaluation can be both pleasant and bothersome.
Pleasant and painful. An assessment can hurt when I find myself lacking, but once a problem is identified , it’s easier to decide how to grow. It takes a lot if personal courage for me to share such things here, but I feel the need. Stark Self-assessment can be done, and be beneficial. You also examine emotions, feelings, etc. on your blog. you’re just more concise and more humorous!
I made a reply to this on the ‘little reply’ maker. Later I noticed that it didn’t show I had replied. Now I can’t remember what it was I said. lol
I am trying to read and comment to too many things. 😦
I read your entire article, but got stuck on this sentence:
“… there are times when I wonder if my husband’s acceptance about what I do is simply that he doesn’t care.”
What if he didn’t care? How would that affect you?
In some ways it is/would be a relief. After all, then I get no resistance to making myself happy!
Glad to hear that. I had a friend, one time, who used to say this:
“I wake up and check my husband’s temperature – to see how I feel today.”
Nope, I have my own life; so does he. We have a satisfying overlap between the two. It used to bother me that he doesn’t care passionately about everything I do, but he cares about so much of my life, it’s hard to be upset. After all, I’m not all that interested in his fantasy football league! We don’t need to be joined at the hip– just connected at the heart.
I like your term: overlap
Congrats to you Karel! Happy to hear hubby is onboard and that you’re having so much success with your goal! Baby steps to success my friend! This post was a great reminder to me. Thank you.
I can’t believe that you would need a reminder – you’re such a good cheerleader to begin with!
Ahh, but we all need a little reminder now and then! Thanks for inspiring me! ♥
Ditto back to you!
Ditto…love that phrase…just saw the movie Ghost the other night again…ditto reminds me of them!