“Take risks. If you’re lucky you’ll be rich; if you aren’t you’ll be wise.” – Ancient Chinese Saying I was raised in a culture of risk avoidance, and I was well into my adulthood before a counselor suggested that I needed to learn how to take risks. Risk […]
Garnet has been a complex dog from the day we got her. She was quickly confident and happy at home, but when we took her away from the house, she was so sensitive and shy that everything scared her. She hated the leash, (see Brave Little Garnet) but […]
Some people like to ignore feelings while others like to exploit them. And then you get the people who know their feelings and just want to express them. Yup, they want to talk about them. What do you do when someone is expressing strong emotions that you don’t […]
How do you repair broken trust? If the issue is big enough, there is no remedy – no second chance. If the relationship is important enough, then a way must be found to restore trust. But how? Normally, I think of this regarding someone who has broken my […]
How do you cope with fear? The world can be a scary place, and if we don’t get a grip, we can live in anxiety. I recently had an occasion to think about how people handle fear. It reminded me of my children’s fear after the Columbine shootings […]
To avoid feeling their pain, I’ve developed defense mechanisms. I can be very withdrawn and aloof as a way to avoid other people’s drama. I am great at problem-solving, so if people tell me their troubles, I have constructive suggestions. If people don’t know what to do, I’ve […]
I’m a studier, ruminator, reader, thinker, analyst, ponderer. I think about things. A lot. I’ve noticed that during the past few years, I’ve been far more comfortable learning more about a subject than I am comfortable actually acting upon what I’ve learned. I tell myself that I’m not […]
