Tag: relationships

long-tail weasel couple

Emotional Independence

A friend of mine called me “emotionally independent” the other day, and I smiled. It wasn’t always this way. When I was divorced the first time, I blamed it on my husband– he was a wingnut. When I divorced the second time, I questioned myself; he was a […]

sea lion

Leaving Behind the Drama Queen

We all know a drama queen. She always has something going on; there’s one crisis after another. These people always seem to have a problem that gets their outrage all worked up. It may be their own problem or a cause they’ve adopted as their own – and […]

orange cat, tulips

Weirdest Wedding Vow Renewal Ever

A couple of months ago, my husband, four children, pseudo-daughter-in-law, and I were playing The Voting Game.*  We had to vote for the person in the game that fit the card presented for each round. For example, I was voted by all six other players to be someone […]

storm cloud, prairie

When the Desperation is Real

A few years ago, I was at a social gathering when a woman I had never met arrived. Many of my friends knew her, and I finally met her. The conversation quickly turned to her intractable pain. None of her doctors’ treatments seemed to work. She found no […]

birds

When Someone You Love is Hurting

Some people like to ignore feelings while others like to exploit them. And then you get the people who know their feelings and just want to express them. Yup, they want to talk about them. What do you do when someone is expressing strong emotions that you don’t […]

dog with toy

Need a Thumb and Blankie?

Linus has the right idea. When things are tough, we all want a soft blanket and a thumb. When I was a child, I didn’t have a blanket to carry. I had some small cloth dolls that fell apart in a few years. I had a revolving door […]

palm trees

Diamond in the Rough

Disney and Hallmark are ruining our children. They peddle a point of view that romance is love. Romance is often theatrics and show-boating, not necessarily love. One of my daughters is a bit of a romantic. I was confused when I first heard her questions about how my […]

abandoned shack; log cabin

Believing a Lie About Yourself

Criticism is a way of life in some offices and households. Bosses don’t want you to get too big for your britches, so they feel they have to cut you down a notch. Family members want to let you know that they aren’t happy with you – what […]