Office talk isn’t often very deep. We greet our coworkers, ask how things are going – you know, the usual. I caught myself yesterday, about to ask an office mate what she was going to do this weekend. Instead of asking her if she planned something fun, I realized I was really wondering if she was going to do anything interesting. And that’s when it hit me.
I often wonder why I don’t spend more time having fun like many of the people I know. People are always talking about the fun they have and how it isn’t good for me to work so hard and not have fun like they do. I was beginning to think there was something wrong with me. Fun just isn’t that big of a motivator for me.
I want to do things that are interesting. I can read all weekend and feel it was time well-spent. I invite my good friends to do interesting things with me, and we enjoy deep and rich conversation. We might also do something creative or attend a class. This outlook can be a problem when I’m confronted with people who have vastly different interests; I don’t know what to say when talk turns to popular movies or sports. If they’re in fun mode and I’m in interesting mode, we aren’t likely to find common ground. But for people who do interesting things, or think in intriguing ways, the sky’s the limit!
So I’m going to stop criticizing myself for not having fun and accept that I would rather have a life that is interesting. When I think of a girl’s night out, I search my list of friends for someone I think has done something interesting, learned something new, or has something to teach me. Am I the only one out there? Let me know whether you’re a fun-lover or an interesting-seeker in the comments. I suspect the blogging community may be skewed toward the interesting side, but I’m not sure. There’s only one way to find out!