I want to thank someone dear to me for providing such a wonderful example of being a good mother. Her adult daughter was unhappy in her marriage and made some long-lasting choices while leaving that marriage. It ended with a divorce and a new baby by a new father. This loving mother stood by her daughter, despite the gossip of their social peers, and welcomed her new grandchild with open arms. The heart wants what the heart wants, and when a miserable marriage needs to be left in the dust, our hearts often take us to new places to find a path out. This new baby is a wonderful change agent for them all; I can only imagine the wonderful ways he will change the whole family.
The mother is a role-model for us all. Her love for her daughter was stronger than social convention, and it’s that acceptance and loyalty that helps pave the way for social acceptance by everyone. The daughter can hold her head high, knowing that she has her mother’s support, no matter what. She chose the heart’s path, and there is nothing wrong with that. I respect the way that she stood straight, was honest with all involved, and went about her life. As for the nasty gossips? My guess is that they are unhappy with their own lives, so it pleases them to criticize others.
There is an old Chinese proverb: “Take risks. If you win, you get rich. If you lose, you get wise.” I think that I’ve made some pretty painful choices in my life, but I’ve made some good ones too. There are some that looked pretty stupid to others, but I can look back on my life and see that they were the smartest things I’ve ever done. I’ve learned from all my experiences, I hope. Who would I be if I criticized someone else for doing the same thing? I have the feeling that, in retrospect, this may be the smartest thing she ever did. She left behind a painful, lonely life for freedom, love, and being who she wants to be. Bravo!
Good job, mom, for standing by her! Good job, daughter, for finding happiness, opening your heart, and dealing with it above-board. Life is too short to be socially acceptable but absolutely miserable.