Category: Relationships

orange blossoms

Celebration of Joy or a Display of Wealth?

One day my prince will come! Right? If you pay attention to popular TV, books, movies, greeting cards, candy makers, and the like, everyone knows that no woman’s life really starts until their true love arrives (and it’s always heterosexual – not!). I won’t go on about my […]

sunrise, Kauai, ocean

Get Over It

Everyone seems to be in such a hurry to just get over it. You know what I mean. Someone suffers the devastating loss of a loved one – a parent, partner, or child. His friends give him a decent amount of time and then start telling him to […]

Columns, cheesman park, Denver

Love as a Verb

I recently read a post by Thoughts on Theatre (Fear of Love) about people having to work at love. She talks about how it takes practice, study, perhaps some element of fearlessness and skill. You have to be willing, unafraid of it. I won’t argue, but I don’t […]

Colorado, mountains, clouds

I apologize

I didn’t hear many apologies growing up. In west Texas, it wasn’t a popular thing to do. Maybe, like Gibbs on NCIS, the type of people who lived there thought that apologizing was a sign of weakness. Little did I know that apologizing is a total art form, […]

Place of Refuge, offering

Love, Like a Rock

I want to thank someone dear to me for providing such a wonderful example of being a good mother. Her adult daughter was unhappy in her marriage and made some long-lasting choices while leaving that marriage. It ended with a divorce and a new baby by a new […]

sunrise, ocean, Kauai

Courage in Action

Sometimes, we have to be courageous in ways that we’d rather not. You know, like telling someone who is far more trouble than they’re worth that you don’t have time for their friendship. It’s hard, but so is enduring their time suckage. I’m sure you know what I […]

Journey to the Soul

Have you ever contemplated the cusps in your life? You know, those points when everything changes. A sailor calls it a “sea change.” Christians might say “born again.” I was once at a seminar where we were urged to draw our lives and then discuss our pictures in […]

Auffenpinscher/Schnauzer mix, black dog, puppies

Heart-to-Heart Resuscitation

My schnauzer-mix, Garnet, is troubled. She had a neglected and painful past before coming to my home a year-and-a-half ago. She was knocked up, despondent, and didn’t know what to do. She wasn’t leash trained in any way, shape, or form, and got very car sick from anxiety. […]

plum blossoms

The Hidden Cost of Gossip

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the people in my life that I don’t want to spend time with. Usually, I just think “not right now” and move on. But I’ve been giving this more time lately because I’ve had a brush with a well-known gossip in […]