orange blossoms

Celebration of Joy or a Display of Wealth?

One day my prince will come! Right? If you pay attention to popular TV, books, movies, greeting cards, candy makers, and the like, everyone knows that no woman’s life really starts until their true love arrives (and it’s always heterosexual – not!). I won’t go on about my […]

orange and white cat lays on a table

Russell Sprout has a Message

He invites me with a wiggle of his hips and the come-hither look in his eyes. As I near him, he stops and gives a sharp sound of delight. “Welcome to my garden,” he says, “thank you for tending it for me.” Russell Sprout was born feral and […]

Goffin's Cockatoo, Tanimbar Cockatoo, Cacatua goffini, white parrot

Lessons from my Cockatoo

My companion animals are more than just my friends; they’re also my teachers. I’ve recently reflected on the lessons from my pushy, wild-caught cockatoo. He’s a rescue, probably over 35 years old, and full of personality. Domestic birds of his breed will learn to speak, but that boat […]

Silky Terrier, dog with books

Putting Away Childish Things

I have four wonderful and independent children. They are intelligent and know how to make up their own minds. They are growing up, and it hurt in an unexpected way today. I guess I should explain that I have loved books ever since I could hold them. My […]

red blossoms, palm frond

I Don’t Want to Do That Again!

So let’s say, just hypothetically, that something happened in your life that you didn’t enjoy. In fact, you might say it really sucked. You don’t ever want to go through that again. Maybe you got fired, jilted, embarrassed, or angry beyond words. Maybe you said something you shouldn’t […]

sunrise, Kauai, ocean

Get Over It

Everyone seems to be in such a hurry to just get over it. You know what I mean. Someone suffers the devastating loss of a loved one – a parent, partner, or child. His friends give him a decent amount of time and then start telling him to […]

cactus blossoms

So What is It, Really?

I talk a lot about compassion in this space, but what is it, really? Many people think of it as something akin to sympathy, but I disagree. Sympathetic compassion stinks of “I’m better than you and your life sucks. You poor pitiful thing.” There is such a feeling […]